Unfriended: A Poem to Ponder
The other day I had a friend on Facebook unfriend me. This person was not the type of Facebook friend that I had never met except online but someone I had done life with, someone I had known for decades, someone Donna and I have had dinner with—this was a real life friend.
It was not the first person that has unfriended me, stopped supporting b because of my posts, and I am pretty sure it will not be the last but for some reason this unfriending lead to me writing the poem below.
This poem in some ways is my prayer that I will not write people off, step away from conversations, that I will be able to listen to difficult truths.
As you read the poem below what might God be speaking to you.
Suddenly they're gone
fingers in ears
eyes now closed—
not the first
currently, the last
in a long line of individuals
who have left
unfriending, un-supporting, un-engaging
decades old relationships
friends no more
their parting words
“Your posts make me so sad and angry….”
not as hurtful as some
I am left wondering
What is it that I
won’t hear, can’t hear
when do I choose to stick my fingers in my ears
close my eyes tight
departing the conversation
unwilling to seek understanding
look for a modicum of truth, common ground
blind to the heart of the person speaking, posting
choosing to not give the benefit of the doubt
rather ascribing certain, often unflattering, motivations—
Search me God, know my heart, and show me
what I do not, will not, don’t want to see in me
in the world, and lead me
onto the pathways of justice, righteousness,
lovingkindness and truth.
(Last stanza adapted from Psalm 139:23-24, 89:14)
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